“You beat fourteen million other sperm to get here.
What makes you think you’re not a success?”-Les Williams
For many women, we oftentimes define success by the world and its standards. Setting our standards by the worlds is a prescription for failure.
Does money really equal success? Does our self-worth equal our net worth? Do you believe that having “things” makes you a better person?
As a young adult my loving parents had high expectations of me. As a result, I set even higher expectations—unreachable–and I felt I failed them and myself. When I received my Master’s Degree, I was 42 years old, single mother, earning low wages, new homeowner, and doing way too much to prove myself. Many times, my peers, didn’t look too highly on my successes, as a matter of fact, somehow my accomplishments angered others. That life experience is the beginning of a life-long transformation. Ms. Vazant counsels us, in her 1993 book, The Value in the Valley, “When we do things for the sake of other people, we usually end up not feeling good about ourselves. When your success is measured by how someone else will respond, you never know what to expect.”
Recently, I received a promotion at work and others ask me, “Why aren’t you jumping for joy?” Frankly, a great friend and confidant, Roberta, once said to me, “Lileen, you do not always understand the depth of your accomplishments and its impact on others.” On the other hand, I learned to be low key about me! Happy? Yes, I’m Ecstatic! Absolutely! I feel good about myself because I am me and I have accomplished many triumphs in life; others I’m still working on.
So, how we do the things we do and how we walk through life — is mirrored in how we learn from our life experiences. It has been a spiritual growth for me. It is through God I give all glory for my accomplishments — it wasn’t easy — and I remain humble in who I am. What I know and how I feel is directly connected to how I love, give, do, and have.
I spell success L-O-V-E. My accomplishments have been for the love of God, family, and giving back to the community by being the Best Me I Can Be. How do you spell S-U-C-E-S-S?
Coach Lileen Shannon
August 29, 2012