I talk about my father, my mother, my brothers, my sister, not to impress, not for notoriety; nor to hear myself talk.  I talk so I don’t forget.   I talk so my children will talk and my grandchildren will talk to continue the story.  

I talk because when I went astray, I listened when I was told I was more than a bottle.  I 100MEDIA_IMAG1235listened when I was told I came from the blood of ancestors that persevered during turbulent times.  Listening helped me to recapture the stamina I needed to survive.  I embraced hope – and hope lifted me up.   I rekindled my relationship with God who never left me –after all — I left God. I left to fit in and to feel accepted.  I knew the person I became was not the person I wanted to be.  Not me!  I listened and now it was time to act — Talking and Listening helped to redefine me. 

So I talk, so my children can listen.  They will know to rise up when times are tough.  I talk to show the importance of putting God first, helping others, and to continue to tell the story.   Always keeping it real!  Keeping it real will help to bring heart, love, and compassion back to our kids. 

Our kids need to know our story so they can add the chapters to their story.  We need to listen so they can heal and the pain they feel inside can subside.  We need to tell our rich histories to build one another up,  to bring compassion and love back to our neighborhoods.  -lshannon

I talk to tell my story so I can continue to stand up, speak up, and do whats right for our kids.  Lead by example!   Go back to basics!  Rekindle the Love —  but Keeping it real!

I talk because What Matters is Families!Jr and Tizel 2013

©L. Shannon 2014

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Since aging is a fact of life – Let’s Take the Stress Factor Out Of Aging

Do you experience that anxious feeling when your boss is breathing down your neck?

Does bumper to bumper traffic raise your stress level?Happy

Do you feel stressed when you think of all the things piling up at home or work?

Did your recent job promotion bring on stress or your son’s wedding announcement?

If you answered “Yes” to any of the above, then the stress you feel can have a negative impact on how well you age, especially if the stress is ongoing and not dealt with.

We all know stress can take a toll on your physical body, but to make matters worse, some studies suggest that continual stress hastens the aging of your brain as well.

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What, then, can you do?  To help answer the question, listed below are a five ways to go from a stressed-state to a feel-good state as early and as often as you can.

  •  Exercise is a huge-stress reliever and anti-aging weapon that’s good to have in your cache.  Exercising can release endorphins that make you feel better.  Going for a brisk walk or hitting the gym also allows you to step away from your problems and perhaps come up with workable solutions.  Coming up with solutions helps you feel in control, rather than a victim.
  •  Laughter really is the best medicine.  Think about how you feel after you laugh – relieved and relaxed.  Laughing helps you put things in prospective, especially negative things you may have worried about to the point where they were blown up to a disproportionate level of stress.  Cracking jokes in the middle of an argument can diffuse the argument and the stress.
  •  Make it a habit to pamper yourself with what feels good as often as you can.  It might be a candlelit dinner, a night out on the town, a bubble bath, dancing with your honey, or a massage.
  •  Take regular vacations.  It may seem like you never have time for a vacation, but take one anyway.  You need time to recharge; this will actually make you more productive when you get back to work.  Maybe you don’t have a week to spare or can’t afford to go anywhere exotic, so take a weekend and get out of town to someplace relaxing.
  •  Eliminate long-term stress.  It may take a lot of courage to make any big changes that are required to get rid of ongoing stress so consider getting outside help.  Maybe you need a life coach, friend, counselor, attorney, financial adviser or real estate agent to see you through it.

Stress is not something you can erase from your life, and indeed it’s the body’s natural response to danger, but there are positive ways you can deal with stress so it doesn’t age you prematurely.

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5-Steps to Staying on Track with Your Goals – How to Measure Your Progress

Once you see a way to reach your goals, you must believe that you can get there.

Measuring your progress is one of the most important motivators of goal setting.   If you are becoming distracted, bored, or losing focus, ask yourself, “What’s the most important thing I can do today, this moment, to move closer to my most important goal?”  This question is a great motivator to help you stick with it.

Here are five simple steps to consider when staying on track with your goals and measuring your progress.

  •   Facts and Figures

Find some way to quantify. If it’s hard to quantify, measure the time you spend working on it.

  •  Stay on Schedule

Create a schedule and chart your progress carefully while also remaining flexible.

  • Keep a Journal

Keep a journal and write about your progress as you work toward your goal.

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Using a tick sheet is an even easier method for charting progress.

  • Ratings and Rankings

Each day, rate how you feel about how it’s going.


It takes time to measure your progress but it’s all worth it. Keep focused on the Prize!   It’s vitally important to keeping you on track.

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5-Steps To Make Your Goals Specific and Action-Oriented


In order to make achieving your goals possible, they must be specific. You can clarify by asking yourself  the what, when, who, why and how.

1.  What’s Your Goal?Image

Make a goal statement that specifies exactly what you want in the fullest detail possible

2.  When Will You Reach It?

Set a timeframe for achieving the goal as well as achieving each sub-goal along the way.

3.  Who Do You Need to Help You?

Nearly every goal requires the support, help, encouragement or skills of other people.

4.  How Are You Going to Get There?

Break up your goal into smaller sub-goals and specify each of these. Then, break them down into daily action plans.

5.  Why Do You Want It?

Always keep in mind your honest reason for wanting to attain your goal.



Be Persistent! Aspire!

You can answer these questions by visualizing what you see in your future after the goal is achieved.

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Are you having difficulties getting your coaching business off the ground?

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I thought I would share an article I read in NAFE News.  Since I’m having a difficult time getting my coaching business off the ground and the competition appears to be fierce,  if you’re like me perhaps these tips will help you.  Enjoy!

5 Tips for Achieving Your Business Goals By Sharon Hadary and Laura Henderson

Sharon Hadary, co-author of this article, was one of the earliest members of NAFE. She fondly recalls, I joined NAFE in the mid-70’s when it was a new organization and a new concept. In those days, NAFE held events in major cities – and I remember how excited we all were every year when the Washington DC event was announced. I also remember what a sense of importance I felt when, through NAFE, companies marketed financial products to women. That was unheard of until NAFE came along! So NAFE has had a profound effect on my life. Keep reading to learn Sharons secrets for career and business success:

What are the ‘secrets of success highly accomplished women know? That’s what we set out to identify in our book, How Women Lead: The 8 Essential Strategies Successful Women Know. We combined our personal insights, research-based knowledge, and the real-life lessons from 14 highly successful women to identify proven, practical strategies that you can immediately use to achieve your goals. Here from our new book are the foundational five.

1. Lead Like a Woman: Have confidence in the leadership strengths innate to you as a woman and build on them. Women are collaborative, inclusive, and consultative — but know when to be decisive and make tough decisions. Do not imitate men.

2. Own Your Destiny: Define success in your own terms. Women’s definition of success is holistic, incorporating all aspects of their lives: professional, family, community and personal. Set high goals and build your career based on your values and passions.

3. Be the Architect of Your Career: Identify and pursue the opportunities and positions to gain the experience and visibility you need to advance. Create opportunities and fearlessly take on challenging jobs or assignments that can position you for success. Become knowledgeable about your company and its operations and understand how you can contribute to the organization’s financial and operational success.

4. Advocate Unabashedly for Yourself: Develop a personal brand based on your strengths and goals. Make a compelling business case for yourself when seeking a promotion, raise, or proposing new business opportunities. Build and nurture networks of mentors and sponsors inside and outside the company to advise and advocate for you.

5. Translate the Stories Numbers Tell to Drive Strategic Results: Financial acumen is a non-negotiable credential for getting ahead in business. Become savvy about the financial operations of your function and understand how it contributes to the organization’s financial success. Financials help you focus, establish milestones, make adjustments along the way, and measure success.  http://us.mg205.mail.yahoo.com/neo/launch?.rand=28ee6rssl54cs


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How do you spell S-U-C-C-E-S-S?

“You beat fourteen million other sperm to get here.

What makes you think you’re not a success?”-Les Williams

For many women, we oftentimes define success by the world and its standards.  Setting our standards by the worlds is a prescription for failure.

Does money really equal success? Does our self-worth equal our net worth? Do you believe that having “things” makes you a better person?

As a young adult my loving parents had high expectations of me. As a result, I set even higher expectations—unreachable–and I felt I failed them and myself.   When I received my Master’s Degree, I was 42 years old, single mother, earning low wages, new homeowner, and doing way too much to prove myself.  Many times, my peers, didn’t look too highly on my successes, as a matter of fact, somehow my accomplishments angered others.  That life experience is the beginning of a life-long transformation.  Ms. Vazant counsels us, in her 1993 book, The Value in the Valley, “When we do things for the sake of other people, we usually end up not feeling good about ourselves.  When your success is measured by how someone else will respond, you never know what to expect.”

Recently, I received a promotion at work and others ask me, “Why aren’t you jumping for joy?”   Frankly, a great friend and confidant, Roberta, once said to me, “Lileen, you do not always understand the depth of your accomplishments and its impact on others.” On the other hand, I learned to be low key about me!  Happy?  Yes, I’m Ecstatic! Absolutely! I feel good about myself because I am me and I have accomplished many triumphs in life; others I’m still working on.

So, how we do the things we do and how we walk through life — is mirrored in how we learn from our life experiences. It has been a spiritual growth for me.  It is through God I give all glory for my accomplishments — it wasn’t easy — and I remain humble in who I am.  What I know and how I feel is directly connected to how I love, give, do, and have.

I spell success L-O-V-E.  My accomplishments have been for the love of God, family, and giving back to the community by being the Best Me I Can Be.  How do you spell S-U-C-E-S-S?

Coach Lileen Shannon

August 29, 2012

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Seasons: My Pursuit of Happiness

In my journey, what I thought woPrecious Tree of Life - I am hereuld make me happy, led me to quick fixes which caused me to deal with the shame of not being fulfilled.   I turned to men to find a man.  I turned to alcohol to cope.  I turned to cigarettes to relieve the anxiety.  I digested books and pursued degrees to escape. I purchased a piece of the rock to prove I could.   I studied the Bible and set a path for my life; and somehow, the way of the world got me off course.  Faith and perseverance brought me back.

AA taught me acceptance was the answer to all my prayers. I did not need people, places, or things to determine who I am.  So through prayer and supplication I lost the desire for alcohol and cigarettes. My accomplishments were good — but I lost sight of God in my pursuits and I distanced myself from what I needed first and foremost – my heavenly father.   I learned the hard lesson that when lost sight of God I began to carry many burdens.  I forgot that my spiritual connection is where I find truth and guidance for daily living.

 Today, my pursuit of happiness is keeping God’s promises in front of me because they give me the hope and strength I need. I was reminded the other day that the richest and wisest king of all times, King Solomon counseled us that chasing pleasure as an end unto itself only leads to despair.

Who are you and where do you find happiness?

©2012.  Lileen Shannon

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When I was a little girl,

I was so good,

But when I became a woman,

I was bad.

When I was a little girl,

I was so sweet,

But when I became a woman,

I was mad.

I lived by the Values expected of me,

I walked, I talked,

I did things accordingly,

I went to school, I followed the rules,

that didn’t teach me anything about me.

I started drinking and thinking,

and thinking and drinking,

until it took control over me.

It’s been 28 years since I have sung this song,

And over the years a love for self is what I found,

Now I stand on firmer ground.

Seasons come, Seasons go,

I am now sixty-years old,

A lot of time for me to see,

I was always the best Lileen I could be.

My message to you is don’t lose your soul,

over things you can’t control,

Build your faith in God and always love who you are.

I am a woman now with so many dreams,

loving that little girl in me!

©1984 Written by Lileen Shannon

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